“YES, MA’AM.”

A quick lesson this time. I learned something early in my career that everyone should learn but few do.

I had a new student arrive in my classroom after attending a military high school for a few years. He was very quiet and attentive and when we finally had a chance to really speak, he kept referring to me as “Ma’am”. Now, I was in my early 30s at this point and I bristled at that. I know I made a joke about it and kind of gave him a hard time for calling me a name that made me feel ancient. He laughed and we went on with our day.

It wasn’t too much later in the day when I realized what I had done. I had been upset by a student who was being polite! How utterly ridiculous! When I saw him the next day, I apologized and told him he could call me ma’am anytime he wanted.

As teachers, especially high school teachers, we hear so much rudeness during our day that it becomes the norm. DO NOT LET THAT HAPPEN! This poor kid was being kind and respectful and polite and I didn’t like it. WHAAAAT?? I have never once since criticized or even joked when a student has been more formally polite than his classmates. Take politeness when you can get it!

BEES AND SNOW

focus photography of honeybee

When you’re in college, it’s your whole world. It’s all you think and talk about; most of the people around you are going through the same things. Your entire focus is college.

It may not surprise you that, after 28+ years, I remember very little about college. What is surprising, however, is that I could have said the same thing after I’d been out five years. I went through college as a single mom (more on that in the future, I’m sure) so college had to share space in my brain with that. But there is one thing that did resonate enough that I still remember it and apply it to my classroom every year.

I had to take a summer class, an education class of some sort. While I have no memory of the subject matter, I vividly recall one event. The professor was going on with his lesson when suddenly there was a commotion in the front of the room. A bee was buzzing its way around our room and people were reacting. The bee made its way out and we carried on, but not before we all received these words of wisdom: “There are two things that you cannot compete with in the classroom. One is a bee and the other is the first snowfall of the season.”

Little did I know at the time but I would go on to remember that moment every single year of my career, every time a bee enters the room and every first snowfall. It is one of the truest things anyone has ever said. While the rest of college turned out to be fairly irrelevant, that piece of advice kept me from being the cranky teacher who ignores the bee and gets annoyed with the kids, or who angrily closes the blinds when it starts snowing.

Hopefully, you will catch these little moments when they occur. You never know when true education will happen!